What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotions are a critical source of information for learning.” — Joseph LeDoux

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence includes: the ability to identify and name one’s own emotions; the ability to harness those emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes both regulating one’s own emotions and recognizing, and understanding the emotions of others.

The purpose for developing emotional literacy is to precisely identify and communicate our feelings.

Features of emotional intelligence

  1. Self-awareness
  2. Self-regulation
  3. Empathy
  4. Motivation
  5. Social skill

1. Self-awareness

This can be defined as having the ability to recognize one’s own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, values and drivers and understanding their impact on yourself and others.

2. Self-regulation

Self-regulation permits you to sensibly manage your emotions and impulses – you show or restrain certain emotions depending on what is necessary and helpful for the situation.  Self-control is a fundamental part of this, but other aspects relate to what you then do: whether you behave in a way which is recognized as ‘virtuous’ or not.

3. Empathy

To be empathetic means you are able to identify and understand others’ emotions i.e. imagining yourself in someone else’s position.

4. Motivation

Being self-motivated consists of: enjoying what you do, working towards achieving your goals and not being motivated by money or status.

5. Social Intelligence is the ability to be aware of the emotions of others, in the moment, and to use that information to manage our relationships. 

Here are five ways to develop your emotional intelligence.

  1. Manage your negative emotions. If someone is upsetting you, don’t jump to conclusions. Instead, allow yourself to look at the situation in a variety of ways. Try to look at things objectively so you don’t get distressed as easily. 
  2. Be mindful of your vocabulary. Focus on becoming a stronger communicator. Emotionally intelligent people tend to use more specific words that can help communicate deficiencies, and immediately work to address them.
  3. Practice empathy. Centering on verbal and non-verbal cues can give you invaluable insight into the feelings of others. Practice focusing on others and walking in their shoes, even if just for a moment. Empathetic statements do not excuse unacceptable behavior, but they help remind you that everyone has their own issues.
  4. Know your stressors. Take stock of what stresses you, and be proactive to have less of it in your life.
  5. Bounce back from adversity. Everyone encounters challenges. It’s how you react to these challenges that either sets you up for success or puts you on the track to full on meltdown mode. You already know that positive thinking will take you far. To help you bounce back from adversity, practice optimism instead of complaining. What can you learn from this situation? Ask constructive questions to see what you can take away from the challenge at hand.

Benefits of Higher Emotional Intelligence

  • People with higher emotional intelligence find it easier to form and maintain interpersonal relationships and to ‘fit in’ to group situations.
  • People with higher emotional intelligence are also better at understanding their own psychological state, which can include managing stress effectively and being less likely to suffer from depression.

Essential Oils to Balance Chakras

The word “chakra” means wheel in Sanskrit. The chakras are depicted as spinning wheels of energy. Different practices have slightly different concepts of the chakras, but they are thought to pull energy from the body and radiate it to the environment surrounding the individual. Additionally, if the need arises, they can pull in energy from the world or the people in the surroundings. Essentially, chakras are thought to be an energetic connection to the world.

The first writings about the chakras are dated at approximately 1000 B.C., and their origins are based strongly within Hinduism, but the concepts of chakras and energy centers is also fundamental within the Ayurvedic concepts of prana and the Chinese practice of qi.

Root Chakra

Located at the base of the spine, the root chakra is associated with survival issues, self-preservation instinct, and the fight or flight response.

On the physical level, the root chakra is associated with adrenal glands, the skeletal structure, teeth, large intestine, kidneys, and the blood.

On the emotional level, root chakra imbalance may manifest as anger or rage, fearfulness, frustration, anxiety, and depression.

On the mental level, someone with a root chakra imbalance may experience black and white thinking, pessimism or negative thinking about life.

On the spiritual level, root chakra issues may show up as stubbornness and not willing to expand one’s view point.

Root Chakra essential oils include Vetiver, Myrrh, Frankincense, Ylang YlangCinnamonGinger, Cyprus, Cedar, GrapefruitPine and other earthy aromas to create grounding and bring feelings of stability.

If your root chakra is balanced you’ll feel supported, safe, and grounded. You’ll feel connected and comfortable in the physical world and your baseline needs will be met.

Root chakra essential oils can be used for balancing and grounding.

Sacral Chakra

Located at the pelvic area, the sacral chakra is associated with pleasure, creativity, sensuality, and emotions.

On the physical level, the sacral chakra is associated with reproductive organs, kidneys, and bladder.

On the emotional level, sacral chakra imbalance may manifest as rapid emotional changes, obsessive thinking, and emotional confusion.

On the mental level, someone with a sacral chakra imbalance may experience rigidity, creative blocks, and difficulty with relating to others.

On the spiritual level, sacral chakra issues may show up as fragmentation, dissociation, and deadened feelings.

The following are the most commonly used sacral chakra essential oils: Sandalwood, Clary Sage, JasmineOrange, Bergamot, Rosewood, Neroli, Black Pepper and Fennel.

When this chakra is balanced, you’ll feel a sense of abundance and well-being. Creativity will be flowing, and you’ll feel passionate and outgoing. You will have the ability and willingness to reach out to others and take risks. 

Sacral chakra essential oils can be used for balancing and geting in touch with your emotions.

Solar Plexus Chakra

Located between the navel and the solar plexus, the solar plexus chakra is associated with the will and identity, the perception of who we are.

On the physical level, the solar plexus chakra is associated with the digestive system, liver, pancreas, and gallbladder.

On the emotional level, solar plexus chakra imbalances may manifest as selfishness, stubbornness, domination, and desire for power.

On the mental level, someone with a solar plexus chakra imbalance may display cynicism, sarcasm, competitiveness.

On the spiritual level, solar plexus chakra issues may show up as feelings of worthlessness, fear of death, or being stuck in the ego/person/identity.

The following are the most commonly used solar plexus chakra essential oils: BergamotGrapefruitRosemary, Mandarin, Juniper, Lemon and Roman Chamomile.

When your solar plexus chakra is functioning properly you’ll feel confident and in control of your life. You’ll have self-respect and feel personal power.

Solar Plexus chakra essential oils can be used for getting in touch with your emotions and for balancing the third chakra.

Heart Chakra

Located in the middle of the chest, the heart chakra moves love through your life.

On the physical level, the heart chakra is associated with the cardiovascular system, the immune system, with lungs, and upper body muscular system.

On the emotional level, heart chakra imbalances may manifest as over sacrificing, selfishness, or lack of compassion.

On the mental level, someone with a heart chakra imbalance may display too much criticism towards self and others, judgments, and perfectionism.

On the spiritual level, heart chakra issues may show up as overwhelming grief, loneliness and isolation, and being stuck on ego levels of existence.

The following are the most commonly used heart chakra essential oils: Rose, Neroli, Melissa, Marjoram, Yarrow, Jasmine and Everlasting.

When your heart chakra is balanced, you’ll feel an abundance of joy and gratitude. Compassion and empathy will come naturally, as will forgiveness and trust in others.

Heart chakra essential oils can be used for awakening love, compassion and kindness towards yourself and towards others.

Throat Chakra

Located in the region of neck and shoulders, throat chakra allows you to speak your truth.

On the physical level, the throat chakra is associated with the thyroid gland, teeth and gums, the jaw, hearing, and nasal passages.

On the emotional level, throat chakra imbalances may manifest as excessive shyness, poor listening, gossiping, or dominating conversation.

On the mental level, someone with a throat chakra imbalance may be unable to think abstractly or in symbolic language, and may have difficulty expressing themselves and communicating their needs or desires.

On the spiritual level, throat chakra issues may show up as blocked creativity, inability to sense subtle energies, and disconnection from the divine and inner spirit.

The following are the most commonly used throat chakra essential oils: Frankincense, Geranium, Sage, Cypress, PeppermintEucalyptus, Clove, and Tea Tree.

When your throat chakra is performing properly, you will feel free to express yourself and your personal truths. You will feel confident in speaking honestly (and even firmly) on matters. You will also be a good listener. 

Throat chakra essential oils help to balance the fifth chakra and express your unique voice and inspired creative sharing.

Third Eye Chakra

Located above the bridge of the nose, at the brow level, deep within the brain, your third eye chakra allows you to see the inner and outer worlds.

On the physical level, the third eye chakra is associated with the pituitary and pineal glands, eyes, and the brain.

On the emotional level, third eye chakra imbalances may manifest as denial, delusions, nightmares, and fear.

On the mental level, someone with a third eye chakra imbalance may have poor memory, poor decision making, and inability to think abstractly and use symbolic language.

On the spiritual level, third eye chakra issues may show up as being spaced out, dualism, inability to see deeper truth and connections, distrusting one’s intuition or inner voice.

The following are the most commonly used third eye chakra essential oils: Bay Laurel, Palo Santo, Melissa, and Clary Sage.

When this chakra is on its A-game, you’ll feel clear and focused. You’ll be able to differentiate between truth and illusion, and will harbor a great deal of wisdom and insight. 

Third Chakra essential oils can balance and open the sixth chakra for clarity of thought, clear seeing, and spiritual insight.

Crown Chakra

Located at the top of the head, the crown chakra allows you to realize that everything is interconnected at a very fundamental level.

On the physical level, the crown chakra is associated with the cerebral cortex, the brain, and the skull.

On the emotional level, crown chakra imbalances may manifest as overwhelm, confusion, apathy, and isolation.

On the mental level, crown chakra imbalance may manifest as rigidity in perspective, over intellectualization, slow learning, and attachment to materialistic viewpoints.

On the spiritual level, crown chakra issues may show up as spiritual emergency, disconnection from witnessing, inability to understand deeper truth, spiritual bypass, and fragmentation.

The following are the most commonly used crown chakra essential oils: Frankincense, Palo Santo, Nag Champa, Helichrysum and Lotus.

When your crown chakra is balanced you’ll be able to live fully in the moment. You’ll trust in your inner guidance and spiritual connectedness as you navigate through life. 

Each unique oil aligns with a different energy center and can be used by topical application, placed in a diffuser or wax pot. Chakra Roll-Ons are typically pre-diluted with Fractionated Coconut Oil at 3%, making it convenient and ready to use. For the 1st Chakra, anoint soles of feet, or back of the knees with intention. For the 2nd – 7th Chakras, anoint area of the chakra by gently touching or massaging in a clockwise direction.

A body in balance can keep itself healthy by taking on whatever challenges might come along, while a body out of balance can be susceptible to disease. To maintain this balance, add essential oils to your wellness regiment.

Choosing essential oils is best done in consultation with a qualified aromatherapy practitioner.